As an executive leader, what is your inner world like? How has your mental landscape been shaping up recently? Is it a place of tranquility and strategic thinking, or is it a battlefield of stress, anxiety, and relentless self-criticism?
Do minor setbacks, like a single email or a brief look in the mirror, have the power to disrupt your day? Does your mind keep you awake at night, churning over decisions and strategies? If so, isn’t it intriguing that your own mind can be your biggest adversary?
Our thoughts, particularly those that are negative and fear-based, can become a repetitive loop, sometimes persisting for years. Perhaps during challenging times, such as the pandemic, you’ve questioned your ability to withstand the constant barrage of thoughts within your mind. When you allow these thoughts to consume you, you become “lost in thought.”
You may be physically present in a board meeting or strategy session, but your attention is drawn inward, often hijacked by self-critical and self-absorbed thoughts. These are thoughts that, if left unchecked, can disconnect you from reality and your team, consume your attention, and dictate your actions, outcomes, and overall experience of leadership.
Unfortunately, for many of us, our personal concerns, needs, and fears consume a significant portion of our mental bandwidth, thereby impacting our leadership effectiveness.
I say this from personal experience, as I often find my own mind preoccupied with questions such as:
It’s easy to get distracted, lose focus, and feel drained. Our minds can race unproductively from one worry to another, lost in anxieties and improbable scenarios. This is a common experience among leaders!
While there’s a certain humour in the universality of these concerns, the impact on our individual and collective success can be significant. It’s crucial to remember that you are not your mind. You are not your habitual thoughts and feelings. You are the one aware of them.
Observe the patterns of your mind.
Take a step back, grab some popcorn, and watch how your mind generates a constant stream of thoughts that often distract you from the present moment.
Instead of trying to suppress or control your thoughts, see if you can begin to observe them, as Eckhart Tolle suggests, as “the antics of a small child.”
How is it inside your mind?
Reflect on where your internal attention has been focused over the past week, month, or even year. Just observe, without judgment or self-criticism.
This exercise is designed to bring your attention to your current mental environment.
Before you can shift your focus to the mental environment you aspire to inhabit, it’s helpful to acknowledge and understand the mental environment you currently occupy—one that you’ve likely been rehearsing for months, if not years.
This understanding is the first step towards becoming a more self-aware and effective executive leader.
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Susanne Biro is a coach to C-suite and executive level leaders. She is the founder of Inner Life Leadership, an app for business professionals who want to reach an unprecedented level of personal understanding and corresponding leadership (and life) success. Susanne is an author, executive development program designer, facilitator, Forbes & CEO Magazine contributing writer, and a TEDx and keynote speaker.
For over two decades, Susanne has worked internationally with senior-level leaders in some of the world’s best companies. Whether coaching one-on-one or authoring, designing, and delivering leadership programs, her passion is the same: to help leaders reach their next level.
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